35 F - Chest related sag issues + confidence issues. Any hope?

[PK2026]

So I'm 35 now and my breasts are on the bigger side. At 25, things were great. At 35, sag is a real issue (and it doesnt help that I have to enter the dating game again at this age). Will chest, back, core specific exercises + cardio and weight loss through dieting help the sag issue? Are there any other exercises or options besides surgery? Do guys even care about this issue when dating around this age lol? Confidence is a bit shot right now. Open to any feedback, feel free to DM if thats easier.

 

[Laura Rainbow Dragon]

Hello and welcome, @PK2026 !

Sagging breasts are caused by gravity (unless you plan on moving to the ISS there's no getting away from that!) and the natural aging process: the skin and ligaments that support our breasts stretch out and lose elasticity over time. Strengthening back and core muscles can help improve posture, and strengthening chest muscles can help the whole chest area look more lifted in general. So yes: it's certainly possible doing those things will affect your physique in ways you desire. I think the larger benefit, however, is that, if you do the work, you will be stronger, and you will gain confidence in knowing that this increased strength is something you accomplished through your own efforts. Possibly it will also help you to focus more on things you can control (choosing to do work to get stronger) versus things you cannot (gravity, genetics).

Re: weight loss: I don't think it will reduce existing sagging. It might slow further sagging. But weight fluctuations exacerbate loss of elasticity. So if you want to go that route, I would definitely recommend taking it slowly and making changes which you are confident will be sustainable for you.

I cannot speak to whether or not guys "care about this issue". Presumably the answer to that depends on the guy. (I'm 55 and female. But I've never wanted to date guys, have expended rather a lot of energy over the years trying to dissuade various guys from their attempts to pursue me in that fashion, and have never cared about the opinions of people who judge other people based on their physical appearance.)

 

[PK2026]

Hello and welcome, @PK2026 !

Sagging breasts are caused by gravity (unless you plan on moving to the ISS there's no getting away from that!) and the natural aging process: the skin and ligaments that support our breasts stretch out and lose elasticity over time. Strengthening back and core muscles can help improve posture, and strengthening chest muscles can help the whole chest area look more lifted in general. So yes: it's certainly possible doing those things will affect your physique in ways you desire. I think the larger benefit, however, is that, if you do the work, you will be stronger, and you will gain confidence in knowing that this increased strength is something you accomplished through your own efforts. Possibly it will also help you to focus more on things you can control (choosing to do work to get stronger) versus things you cannot (gravity, genetics).

Re: weight loss: I don't think it will reduce existing sagging. It might slow further sagging. But weight fluctuations exacerbate loss of elasticity. So if you want to go that route, I would definitely recommend taking it slowly and making changes which you are confident will be sustainable for you.

I cannot speak to whether or not guys "care about this issue". Presumably the answer to that depends on the guy. (I'm 55 and female. But I've never wanted to date guys, have expended rather a lot of energy over the years trying to dissuade various guys from their attempts to pursue me in that fashion, and have never cared about the opinions of people who judge other people based on their physical appearance.)

Hey thanks for this well thought out response! Totally agree and do hope improvements in posture and chest muscles can help with the issue overall. Also agree that i should probably refocus on things in my control. I do think that exercising will eventually help with confidence even if my chest doesnt improve much (i hope anyways).

I guess the guy thing is a confidence issue on my part as well. Something to work on. But am still curious what guys think in that regard so feel free to chime in if there are any guys seeing this post (assume they all tuned out after realizing it was a womens issue lol)

 

[Diego1978]

So I'm 35 now and my breasts are on the bigger side. At 25, things were great. At 35, sag is a real issue (and it doesnt help that I have to enter the dating game again at this age). Will chest, back, core specific exercises + cardio and weight loss through dieting help the sag issue? Are there any other exercises or options besides surgery? Do guys even care about this issue when dating around this age lol? Confidence is a bit shot right now. Open to any feedback, feel free to DM if thats easier.

I'm a man who doesn't judge women for their physical appearance. To those who ask me why i started training every day, i say that i do it because i love my body and not because i hate it. I recommend you try my recomp plan which you can find in the safe space section.
I hope you can improve your body and be happy

 

[NightWolf714]

For me personally, exercising, diet, and adding collagen supplements helped. But my issue was less natural aging and more loose skin due to extreme weight loss (I had weight loss surgery 2 decades ago), so your mileage will probably vary.

 

[TopNotch]

If you're in a relationship with a bloke, and get to the stage where he's going to see any sort of sag anywhere on you and then he turns around and said, "no thanks", you're better off without him! I don't think any bloke in his right mind would reject anyone he's interested in just because Nature has manifested herself (by way of ageing and the effects of gravity). We all sag sooner or later.
This is easy to say, but if you don't like what you see, it really won't matter what any bloke you're with thinks; and if you do like what you see, it really shouldn't matter what any bloke you're with thinks.
The way you carry yourself will affect your confidence and appearance. As @Laura Rainbow Dragon suggested, improving your posture will help with that sagging appearance, as well as make you feel more confident, and if you show confidence, well, decent blokes like that.